End of life checklist
It is important to remember that everyone’s wishes at end of life are different, so you can include as much or as little from this list as you want in your own end of life checklist. Below is a basic list to help you start thinking about your wishes including some of the practical and spiritual pieces. Planning ahead can be done by anyone at any time in their lives. Planning ahead is a gift we give our loved ones so that they know your wishes are being met and they can have the space to grieve without scrambling to close an estate or argue over what you would have wanted.
Will and Estate Planning
Make a will to decide who will look after your kids, pets, property, and heirlooms etc. You can be explicit about your wishes and it is important to speak to anyone named in the will to obtain their concent and to be able to communicate your wishes directly to those named.
Power of Attorney (Financial and Medical)
Assign someone to handle your finances, bills, and legal matters if you're unable to do so.
Healthcare Decisions (Representation Agreement)
Choose someone to help make medical and personal care decisions for you, if you are unable to do so.
Advance Care Planning (Living Will)
Write down your wishes for medical care, values and goals if you are unable to communicate them, and appoint a decision-maker.
Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) Order
Decide if you want rescue efforts like CPR if your heart stops, and have it signed by your doctor.
Funeral and Memorial Wishes
Write down your funeral wishes or celebration of life plans, including music, flowers, and special messages etc.
Life Insurance
List your policies and beneficiaries to help your family manage finances after your death.
Expected Letter of Death
A doctor can complete this form for planning if you are choosing at home hospice care.
Digital Accounts & Passwords
Make a list of online accounts and passwords, and specify what should happen to your digital presence.
Pet Care Plan
Arrange care and responsibilities for your pets, including who will look after them.
People to Call List
List important contacts such as family, friends, utilities, banks, and employers to call upon your death.
Important Documents
Keep copies of ID, passports, and recent medical and personal records in a safe place and advise a trusted friend or family member of their whereabouts.
Memory and Legacy Items
Gather photos, stories, and messages for loved ones or to pass down.
MAiD (Medical Assistance in Dying) (if applicable)
Discuss and prepare legal forms and wishes regarding MAiD.
Personal Messages or Letters
Write notes or messages to loved ones to share your feelings.
Organ Donation and Spiritual Wishes
Register your organ donation preferences and any spiritual or ritual wishes.
This list is intended to be a starting point so feel free to add or remove items to suit your needs. Planning ahead can bring peace of mind for you and your loved ones. As noted at the beginning of this post planning ahead is truly a gift we can provide our loved ones and family.
It is also worth noting that this is hard work. So be kind to yourself and celebrate as you check items off this list. This is work that a death doula can support with and be a companion through. It is not something you need to do alone.
